This post is going to be unrelated to Internet Marketing I guess. It’ll be more on a personal level that disturbed me to a certain extent.
Many days ago, during the times when I was super stressed with the running of IMA, I blogged about a conversation I had with a person who had an opinion about why IM wouldn’t work. Maybe as fate decrees, that person read that blog post and he approached me to question me about this.
I guess many times when we feel angry about something, or at least when I feel angry about something, I would be very hot headed for a short period of time. At times, I feel angry with my parents, my relatives, my wife, my friends and colleagues, I would curse and swear about them for half a day or so. Then there after, alls well ends well.
Now tell me, when you are very angry with someone, do you release that anger through some means? You walk it off? You eat some chocolate and forget about it, you confront that person, you write about it? What do you do? (Jacklyn, please tell me how you handle this?). I chose to blog rant about the issue and forgot about it. As the blog post gets pushed lower and lower, it’ll be nothing but a piece of history in my mind.
As much as I’ve my rights to write whoever I think about another person. Very much like xiaxue, I guess. It’ll really generate alot of hate mail, which is really against my kind nature, seriously. But reflecting back, heck though it’s 11 days ago, it’s only 2 blog posts ago! Ha, when he showed me the print out, i seriously already forgotten what I wrote! :p
But nevertheless, I guess it’s wrong to blog about someone like that? Really? Of cos, personal comments like ’stupid’ should be put away. Hmmm, for that, I think I should reflect. I didn’t go through POE for nothing! Everything is always about reframing! Woo hoo!
After this conversation, I began to realise everything that we do is about perspective. It still intrigues me on the power of values. I can take criticism very well, but handle disappointment like fark. But this is really the opposite with my wife. If I criticise her, she’ll eat my balls for brekky! Ha! So everything that we do, it’s about whether who ever sees what from who ever’s point of view. Adam Khoo once said about values and how it drives us. For me, any insult to POE or IM is an unforgivable doing to my values. Same thing, anything I do that contradict other people’s value is an insult to theirs. I learnt this today. Interesting. Wow.
There are a thousand thoughts that going through my mind right now about what happened. On one hand, I believe what I did was wrong in a certain way. On the other hand, I was like, oh well, I got caught, therefore I’m wrong. One way to relate is the illegial parking outside AKLTG. Everyone does that because of ‘free parking’, laziness, etc… But when we get caught by the traffic police, it’s one of those ‘WTF moments’. We know we shouldn’t park there, but we still blame the traffic police for being so relentless in their summons. Ha!
Let me quote an example, when you are really angry about someone. Maybe it’s your in laws, your colleagues, your best friend, your wife, your husband, what do you do? I firmly believe you’ll definately confide in someone else about it. You can cry about it, you can curse and swear about it, you can take it violently or you can take it calmly. Ultimately, are you in the wrong? No! You can’t control your surge of emotions sometimes. When if the person whom you bitch about somehow learns about that conversation and gets confrontational about it, it’s one of those ‘lan-lan’ moments, don’t you agree?
In all, in life, some things goes your way, some doesn’t. You cannot please everyone. As long as I know I treat everyone kindly most of the time that is in tune to my character and values, I’m still entitled to my emotions surge. Whether anyone likes it or not.
Comments on your control of emotions please. Yes, you…
Cheers,
Ming Chern
Internet Marketing Technical Coach
